"OMG WHY ARE YOU SINGLE?"

"Jo why don't you have a boyfriend?"

"Jo you need to find you a man, because you're not getting any younger!"

"Omg your standards are so high, you might end up marrying one of those old African uncles."

"How do you not have a boyfriend at your age? Even 12year olds have boyfriends these days."

"You are so pretty, you have such a nice body and personality, I wonder why you don't have a boyfriend."

See, so when people say stuff like these to me I just look at them like 👀👀. I was kinda hurt though when that girl told me that I might end up with an African uncle if I don't lower my standards, the disrespect!!! LOL! I was honestly sad that she said that to me as her friend but I was even more sad for her because she has it in her mind that if she doesn't lower her standards then she will not find a guy at all.

People go into relationships nowadays just for the heck of it; either to avoid loneliness, to find someone to cuddle up with or to do it "for the 'gram" (post pictures of themselves and their boyfriend/girlfriend on instagram or any other social network, so that people can see that they too can 'get it'). Some people literally go into relationships just to fit in! Just to be part of the crew. We live in a society where people think that having a boyfriend or girlfriend makes you better than the people without. You see girls/boys boasting about the amount of guys/girls they have been with and when you tell them you haven't been with any, they look at you as if you're crazy. Really?! Would you rather prepare yourself for the right person who will treat you nice, pamper you and all that good stuff or would you rather suffer with the guy you met in the club few days ago who is always putting you down? Would you rather prepare yourself for a person who will appreciate you for who you are or would you rather suffer with the random who doesn't see your worth? Would you rather prepare yourself for the person who will lead you towards God or would you rather suffer with the guy who pulls you away from God?

I don't know about you but if trusting in God's time is going to bring me the man of my dreams, then why would I waste time on these randoms? I am not saying the randoms are bad people and I am not saying that early relationships are bad either. Some of them have God's blessing. Some of these relationships have God's approval. Therefore just because you see your friends getting into relationships doesn't mean that you should rush into one too just to fit in or look cool. You have to learn to wait for your turn!

I have heard so many girls say things like "oh I need to find a guy immediately or I'm not going to know what to do with myself". So many people struggle with staying single. Therefore because of their desperation to find a boyfriend, they give anyone who shows interest in them a pass to come into their lives. Many of these relationships end with pain, regret and hardened hearts. Because of this reason and others, many girls think that boys are dogs. No sister, they are not dogs and I'm not saying that it is okay for guys to mistreat girls, no it's unacceptable but just hear me out. Did you expect the guy you met at the club who claims to be a Christian but doesn't live like one to lead you toward God? Did you expect the guy who cheated on his girlfriend with you to stay faithful while he's with you? Did you expect the guy who always put himself and other people down to encourage you to do better or to move forward? Did you expect the guy who cannot keep his hands off of anything that moves to keep his hands to himself while he is with you? Hmm?☕

So many of you are out here interfering in God's plans for your lives. If you knew what he has in store for you, you would just sit and chill. Some of you have planned out your weddings and everything. Many of you are out here talking about "oh I have to be engaged by 24, married by 25, have first baby by 27". My friend do you even know what you will eat tomorrow afternoon? Im not trying to disrespect you or kill your dream but how dare you interfere in God's plans for your life? What if God disagrees with your plan and He tells you that he wants you to be married by 27 instead? What are you going to do? Are you going to go ahead and do it your way anyway? And when it doesn't work out you will come and blame God for not "keeping His promises to you"?

Rest your heart! Stop trying to do God's job for Him, He's got you. He is preparing the right guy/girl for you. Do not conform to the standards of this world. Be you! Be you! Be you! Do not EVER in your life lower your standards for anyone or for any reason. Just focus on God, develop and maintain a deep relationship with Him, focus on yourself, focus on your education, your career, your family, friends and everything that matters now. Let God do His job.

And if you are always questioning people about why they are single, stop it! It's annoying lol.

xx